Not letting the negativity of others get me down with comparisons of color and black and white photography


The objective of this post is to address negativity and pettiness that is often prevalent in interpersonal relationships.  Basically I don’t let it get to me.  If a co-worker or acquaintance is petty or aggressive I ignore it and move on.

Don’t dwell.  Don’t engage in a negative or aggressive conversation.  Be the better person and accept things as they are.  Often the pettiness may have nothing to do with you and is just a reflection of another’s insecurity or poor self concept.  Understand this and continue to work on what makes you feel happy and fulfilled.

Over the years I have often had to deal with pettiness in the workplace or from other unfulfilled acquaintances.  Some whoppers I have heard over the years came from subordinates telling me they felt sorry for me for having a better paying job- to others personally attacking my aptitude for hard work as being negative or straining.
Challenges fulfill me and I’m not going to back down if it makes someone else feel threatened or insecure.  We all find fulfillment in different things and I’m an active person who likes to have goals to work towards.  You can’t change who you are to please others.  Just accept the person you are and stay close to people who see the best in you.  If others are negative understand that and align with those who encourage you.

 This strategy has helped me find success when facing adversity in many areas of life from friendships and family, to graduate education, and my teaching career.  We can all learn from others and are still growing everyday.  Enjoy the journey.


3 Responses to “Not letting the negativity of others get me down with comparisons of color and black and white photography”

  1. January 19, 2007 at 2:11 pm

    I am basking in a warm, warm glow right now.

    Okay, but seriously, being too positive can really be bad for you. Yep. It affects your health, diet, foot odour, and personal outlook, and can we afford to improve these things? No, and again I say, nuh-uh. Adversity can only spell a-v-e-d-s-r-i-t-y, and when we face it, we face ourselves and our fears: our fears of spelling advsriety wrong. And when that moment crushes you down into a little cube with a crinkly crumply tin-can-under-a-rubber-boot sound, you must stand up and walk on to a higher place, where little metal cubes can be free.

    Or something. You’re a beautiful person. Don’t listen to me.

  2. January 21, 2007 at 1:18 pm

    I was happy to have read this today. I appreciate what you have to say in a big way.
    Over the past few years (as you know, Jo) I have really struggled to deal with some negative people that have been thrust upon me in life. Like you, I am a ultra-sensitive person when it comes to how others feel about me and I tend to worry, stress and take things personally.
    I’ve just recently come to the conclusion that only certain people DESERVE to have an opinion about me, and I get to decide who those people are. So, as far as I’m concerned, all those poisonous, negative people can walk around with their heads lodged firmly in their rectums, for all I care, because I’m pretty sure that’s how they spend most of their time anyways.

    It was a liberating conclusion.
    🙂 R.

  3. 3 mostlyme
    February 27, 2007 at 6:46 am

    You seem like a beautiful person. Your photos are warm and genuine. I love the way you use light.

    I am also a photographer and love seeing another photographer’s perspective on life’s lovely moments. Keep sharing!

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